4 Ways to Get Back in Your Boyfriends Life Again After a Break Up

4 Ways to Get Back in Your Boyfriends Life Again After a Break Up

Question: I want to know how to get my boyfriend back after I broke up with him and Im looking for ideas to try and contact him and get back in his life. Is there a certain amount of time I should wait before contacting him and what is the best way? Answer: Thats a great question. If youve recently split up with your boyfriend its not a big surprise that getting back into his life again is high on your list. However, thinking of getting back into his life and doing it are two different things. Your 1st actions right after the break up can make or break your odds of fixing the relationship so youll need to work out a game plan and execute it carefully. Take it slow at first... thats the idea here. If you move too fast and too soon, your ex will simply move further away from you. Dont forget that he broke up with you. If you want to get him back, you must give him a reason to date you again and you need to show that to him in a way that wont scare him off. If you come off too strong, hell look the other way and not even give you a second thought. Realize that getting back together into your exs life wont happen automatically. The number one mistake you can make is trying to force yourself back into his life after youve broken up. Guys can easily see this coming from a mile away no matter how sweet and innocent you think youre being. What Im hoping to get across here is that you cant just call him up to chat or say "hi" or do anything else that might give you a "reason" to make contact with your ex. As hard as it is, what you should do now is walk away from him. Detaching yourself from him gives you an air of self-reliance and by not forcing the issue you make it appear as if youve accepted the separation. This might be the top technique you can use, specially if youre having trouble breaking contact with him or hes still trying to contact you. Once youve decided to detach yourself from him, its got to be something you stick to for a while. Take comfort in the fact that if you execute this correctly, youll get your boyfriend back and hell be climbing the walls to talk to you again. The no contact rule after a break up is painful and temporary but its also the most necessary phase to getting your ex boyfriend back. The longer you extend the no contact period between you and your ex, the more power you have to putting yourself in a greater position when the time comes to get back together. How Long Should the No Contact Rule Last? The optimal no contact period of time can last between 6 to 8 weeks. The best part about your instant withdrawal from his life is that it will produce some deep rooted thinking on his part. As your ex begins to examine the fact that you can live and breathe without him, hell start making some sincere choices in his life. Absolutely nothing in a relationship speaks louder than actions, especially when those actions are nothing at all. If you take one thing away let it be this: with regards to getting your ex boyfriend back, less is more. The less you do now, the less youll need to do later on when its time to talk again. Every single guy thinks the exact same on the subject of breaking up with a girl: "After I break up with a girl, I fully expect her to come running back to me. Shell have a million reasons why we need to stay together, but Ive got a million reasons why we shouldnt." "I guarantee that shes going to try and make contact with you again. The initial days after the breakup are awkward so I try and keep my cell phone off." "If you dont play your cards right, breaking up can be just a stressful as a relationship. The longer she tries to hand on to the relationship the less attractive she becomes and the less I want to see her." As you can see, you need to ignore the impulse to get hold of your ex following the break up, because if you do youll seriously harm your chances of reversing the breakup. Forcing the issue with your ex could seriously affect the way he views you, and it wont be good. Now on the flip side, we have a time at which it is fine to make contact with your ex which wont adversely impact you or your chances of getting back together. If you carry out the no contact rule with your ex fully and effectively, the usual waiting period is about six to eight weeks. I know it may seem like a long time. However, this time period is extremely important in relation to reversing the breakup because it ensures that a few things have happened: 1. Not having contact with your ex boyfriend for 6 to 8 weeks is going to make you appear extremely attractive and mysterious to him. Hell want to know what youre up to and why you suddenly dropped off the face of the earth and didnt fight for the relationship. Perhaps the best thing about the no contact rule is that hell be trying to figure out whether or not youve totally moved on and found someone new which will make him second guess himself and whether he made the right decision to break up with you. 2. Enough time has passed that your ex boyfriend now misses you. The six to eight week time period lasts long enough that this starts to happen naturally without you having to even lift a finger. This clearly shows you the power of the no contact rule and why its so critical to getting your ex back. 3. When the time comes to contact your ex you can be sure that it will be met with enthusiasm and not opposition. In fact, dont be surprised if your ex boyfriend actually contacts you first because hes going to be curious about your life and what youre up to, so take it easy at first. For all he knows, youve totally moved on from him and want nothing more to do with him. Most effective Methods of Contacting Your Ex after the Break Up Alright, its time to move on to the important stuff: how should you contact your ex boyfriend for the first time? Which methods are the most effective for re-establishing contact, and how do you get back in touch with him in a way that wont scare him off? Lets examine each option below: Facebook: Of all the ways at your disposal, this is probably the worst. Writing a note on their wall is boring and it shows them that youre not very creative. The message that youre sending your ex is that hes not really that important to you and youve rather leave him a two second message than have an actual conversation with him. As you can see, this is an extremely impersonal and ineffective way to open to door again into your exs life. Text Messages: Just as before, this is a bust. Texting your ex is only slightly better than a Facebook wall post. The problem with text messaging is that it leave room for interpretation on your exs end which could lead to confusion and ruin your chances of getting back together, also it gives him the option to delete your message altogether... which could cause you to panic and then youre left wondering if he ever got the message in the first place, or did he simple delete it? Email: Emailing is better than the previous two methods, but its still not personable. Having said that, I still dont recommend doing it unless your relationship started out that way (which a lot do nowadays). The benefit to making use of email over texts and Facebook is that its less difficult to craft your message and get your thoughts and ideas across. Essentially youll want to write a message that makes your ex want to call you back. The more cryptic and mysterious you are in your message, the more hell want to call you back and see what youve been up to. The end goal here is to have your ex call you, and the number one way to reconnect with your ex boyfriend is over the phone. The Phone Call: Dont rush things when it comes to the phone call. It needs to be done when hes got a few minutes to talk and have an actual conversation with you. Dont call him at work, or when hes out with his friends. The phone call with your boyfriend is the most important step when it comes to communicating with him again and so you need to be very careful. Keep the conversation between you two light and upbeat and try and be a little mysterious as well. And dont forget, since youre the one who initiated the call; make sure youre in control of it when it ends. During the phone call, make sure you use this one simple trick that will make your ex unable to get you out of his mind. If you plant the seed now during your call, your ex boyfriend is going to be left imagining you for the remainder of the night and throughout the week. The Face to Face Meeting: Regardless of what phase youre at, eventually youre going to have a face to face meeting with your ex. This can be either risky or rewarding since you havent seen each other for so long, but if done correctly, can lead to quick results. I hope that during your no contact period that youve improved as a person both physically and mentally. Its important for your ex to be attracted to you just as he was before. If you look, dress and smell your best, youll catch your ex boyfriends eye and greatly improve your chances of getting him back. Just like the phone call with your ex, youre only looking to give him a small taste, dont give him too much too soon. Any and all face to face contact with your ex boyfriend needs to be brief so that youll keep his curiosity peaked and wanting more. This will also make your chance encounter look less staged. If you happen to run into each other by accident, keep the conversation brief with an apology that youre busy and have somewhere else to be. This way itll look as if youve totally moved on and are over him and youll have all the control. Dont be surprised if during your "chance" encounter he doesnt want you to leave. Be prepared for this. If it happens, dont sweat it; simply tell him to call you later that night. That invitation alone will leave his heart pounding waiting to call you. This is a simple method to get the conversation flowing between you two, and it puts the ball in his court.
Getting your boyfriend back requires you to take control of your break up and you need to do that as quickly as possible. And when your ex boyfriend finally calls you, youll need to know exactly how to handle the phone call so you can reel him in for the kill.

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