Why do Russians smile so seldom?
We often hear from foreigners that Russians rarely smile (especially people living in big cities). We dont notice it but in comparison to other eastern and western countries it is right. Meaning what? Russians rude, impolite, ill mannered, non-hospitable and so on??
I think it is deeper in national traditions. Lets see how it is! I have found a wonderful work in the Internet written by one of the Voronezh University Professor I.A. Sternin. I think he has given a good scientific base to this phenomenon.
He points out 14 distinguishing features of a typical Russian smile:
1. Smile is Russian communication is not a sign of politeness.
In American, English, German and Finnish communicative behavior it is. Smiles are necessary when greeting or having a polite conversation. Russian writers have pointed out many times that a typical American smile seems non-natural and false to many Russians. They say, "Americans smile as if they are electric lights turned on", "their smile is something chronic", "an American face is mainly teeth".
I dont mean to hurt Americans :) Im trying to defend Russians from those blaming them of non-smiling.
Western smiles greeting someone mean pure politeness. The more a person smiles the more friendliness he/she is showing to his/her partner.
Japanese girls at the entrance to a moving staircase in large supermarkets smile and bow to each customer - 2500 smiles and bows per day!
Russian people dont smile out of politeness. Visa versa, it is considered to be bad to smile without any significant reasons. The Russian phrase "he smiled out of pure politeness" implies a negative attitude to the smiling person.
A constant polite smile is considered a "smile on duty" in Russia and shows peoples insincerity, closeness and unwillingness to show real feelings.
2. Russian people do not smile at strangers.
Russians smile only at their fellow guys. Thats is why shop assistants never smile at customers (they dont know them personally!:). If a shops-assistant knows a customer she shall smile at him/her.
3. It is not typical to Russian to give a smile in return.
An American wrote in the "Izvestiya" paper, "I dont know hwy but when looking at Russian custom officers checking our passports and smiling at them we never get a smile in return. When our eyes meet the eyes of some person walking along a street in Russia we never get a smile back." It is true: if a Russian person sees a stranger smiling at him he/she is certain to seek the reason of fun. Maybe something in his/her clothes or hairdo makes the gun so cheerful?
4. It is not typical for Russian to smile at a person whose eyes you met with your eyes by chance. Americans smile in such a case but Russians turn off their eyes.
5. Russians dont smile altogether looking at babies or pets. (I think it is a controversial utterance).
6. A Russian smile is a sign of personal attraction.
A Russian smile shows that a smiling person likes you. He/she is very friendly to you. That is why Russians smile only to fellow people because they cannot favor strangers.
7. Russians do not smile when working or doing something serious.
Customs officers do not smile because they are doing their serious business. The same thing is with sellers and waiters. It is a unique peculiarity of a Russian smile. Chase Manhattan Bank has a large note "If your operator didnt smile you tell the doorman and he will give you a dollar!"
Children mustnt smile when studying. Russian adults tell their kids, "Dont smile, be serious at school, preparing home task and when grown ups are talking to you!" One of the most common remarks of a Russian teacher is, "Why are you smiling? Stop it and start writing".
Serving staff has never smiled in Russia. Since early times clerks, salesmen, waiters and servants have been polite and courteous but never smiling. Now we have to make a smile a professional requirement to all the service staff members because it is not gonna appear otherwise:).
8. Russian smile is sincere. It is the expression of either high spirits or a good attitude to a partner.
Russians do not smile without reason (for example, to make the mood of a partner better, to make him/her feel pleased or support him/her). One has to really like the person he/she is smiling at or be in very high spirits to have the right for a smile.
9. A smile of a Russian person should have a sufficient reason, which is evident to others. It gives a person the right to smile from others point of view. The Russian language has got the unique proverb missing in other languages, "Laughter without reasons is the sign of foolishness". Western thinking people are unable to understand the logics of this proverb. A certain German teacher got the following explanation of the proverb, "If a person is laughing without reason he has problems with his/her head". He couldnt understand it and asked, "Why does the second utterance follow the first one??"
The reason of a smile should be evident and clear to others. If they dont understand the reason or consider it insufficient for s smile they may break smiling and make a reproof, "What are you smiling at?"
10. The only worthy reason of a smile in Russian communication is the wealth of a smiling person.
Carnegies call for a smile arises the following question among the Russian people, "Why smiling? No money paid, only problems all over, and you say, "smile"..." Thus, for Russians a smile is not an inherent part of communication but a reflection of their conditions, mood and material wealth.
11. It is not typical for the Russian communicational culture to smile in order to cheer up or make others cheer up. A Russian person will hardly smile without evident wealth or very high spirits.
A certain Japanese documentary about the emergency landing showed the episode with a stewardess smiling at her passengers before the emergency landing. After the landing was over she fell down writhed in hysterics. So, she fulfilled her professional duty having calmed down the passengers.
Russian public opinion condemns a smile of self-encouraging, "Her husband has left her but she is smiling", "she has got a great number of children but she is smiling" and so on. All these phrases condemn a smile of a woman who is trying not to lose courage in a hard situation.
12. In a pure Russian consciousness a smile need a proper time for appearing. It is considered an independent action, which is very often unnecessary and annoying. Another Russian proverb says, "Business takes time, fun takes an hour".
13. A smile should fit the situation from the point of view of the people around.
The commonest situations of Russian communications do not further smiles. People do not smile in a tense situation. They say, "Not a proper time for smiling". It is not considered good to smile near people having serious problems or troubles (if they others are aware of them of course): illness, personal problems and so on.
14. Russians do not really distinguish between a smile and laughter. They often mix up these two phenomena.
Very often people say to smiling people in Russia, "Whats funny? I dont understand!" or "Have I said something to make you laugh?".
The conclusion of the author is as follows: the Russians are cheerful and wit in general. It is natural for them not to hide their feelings and moods.
However, everyday life of a Russian person has always been a constant struggle and survival; lives of many Russian people were very hard and some serious concern has become a constant expression of their faces. A smile in such circumstances is an exception meaning wealth, high spirits. Only a few people can have it altogether (and rather seldom). It is evident to everyone and very often may arise questions like "hey, why smiling?...", envy and even dislike.
So if you a smile at a Russian person and get no smile in return, dont feel surprised or hurt. Consider it an exotic national tradition :))
Well, commerce, market relations and other values of a different world are gradually bringing the habit of smiling "out of pure politeness" and "making a good impression" to Russia. Right are the Chinese, Â«If you cannot smile you cannot trade well!Â» :-))
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