12 Text Flirting Tips For Attracting Women
Wanna know the ONE tool I use all the time to flirt and create sexual tension?
Its the text messaging function on my cell phone.
Now unless youve lived in a cave for the last couple of years, youre probably familiar with text messages. These are the short, "email like" messages you can send to people with your cell phone.
Theyre widely used because theyre incredibly useful for asking a quick question or sending a brief message.
Whats interesting is women LOVE text messaging! If youve ever watched a girl in a social setting, youll notice how much many text messages she sends. In fact, I think this form of technology is rapidly replacing phone conversations.
So when you text message a girl the RIGHT way, you can quickly build enough attraction that you wont have to do much IN-PERSON game when you see her next.
BUT theres one major problem here...
Most guys complete screw-up what they write on their text messages. They text the way we men typically have conversations. When talking to one another, we like to think logically and make plans. This means their texts are usually straight to the point.
Women on the other hand, view text messaging as a way to get to know one another. They use it to describe their problems and stay in touch with people in their lives.
Its important to remember this rule when texting!
The best way to use text messaging is to build SEXUAL TENSION. Before each text, I think carefully about how this message will advance the flirting and sexual tension Ive created with this particular girl.
Whether Im teasing her, sending "comfort" messages or making plans, my texts are specifically designed to create a STRONG emotion in the girl who receives them!
And from the results Ive seen in my dating life, I can honestly say there is a lot benefits you can gain behind sending a well-written text message. With that being said, Im actually really surprised at the LACK of information about sending text messages to women.
While I KNOW many guys use them, not much has been written on the subject! So for the last 5 months, Ive had to create my own system for text messaging.
So lets cover the basics of text messaging. Over the last five months, Ive received a number of emails from guys who are interested in improving their "text game". Primarily I get TWO main questions:
1) Whats the purpose behind text messaging?
2) Can you give ACTUAL examples of messages youve sent?
With these two questions in mind, I want to dive in and further discuss this topic:
#1- What is the purpose for text messaging?
Bottom line- Text messaging is all about creating and maintaining sexual tension!
When you first get a number, its easy to have attraction. But this is quickly lost in the time between getting her digits and making that first phone call. With texting, you can bridge the time-gap and keep the attraction alive.
While I recommend that texting should NEVER replace a phone call, sending a few can be an excellent way to get a woman to THINK ABOUT YOU throughout her day.
And when you go to call her, shell immediately recognize the good feelings and emotions that youve already given her. This makes it easy to get her on the phone and set up a 2nd meeting (ie: First Date)
I personally use my text messages to STAND OUT from the other guys who might be calling this girl.
So I focus on TWO things when I text a girl:
1) Teasing her in a familiar manner to create the sense that I already "know" her
2) Using call back humor to an event/conversation that happened when I met her
Generally Ill start a texting conversation by referencing a specific thing that happened in our first conversation. (This is how to use the call-back humor that I just mentioned)
For instance, a few weeks back I met an attractive girl from Eastern Europe. As soon as she opened her mouth, I realized that she sounded EXACTLY like the guy from the Borat movie.
And once I confirmed that she saw the movie and "got the joke", I teased her mercilessly about sounding like Borat. Naturally the first message started with a reference to Borat.
This leads to the next question that I want to cover (This is where I provide the 12 proven messages that I promised at the start of this article)
#2- Can you give ACTUAL examples of messages youve sent?
As I mentioned before, I typically use call-back humor with my texts. This makes it hard to give "cookie-cutter" examples. However, there are times when I didnt get an opportunity to use call-back humor.
So even if I really didnt get a chance to know a girl better, Ill still use a few messages that have gotten great results in the past.
Anyway, here are 12 messages Ive personally used:
==> After meeting a girl- (Use 2-3 hours after the first meeting to establish initial contact)
1) "I know youre thinking about me. So I thought I would say hi!"
2) "My ears are tingling...stop talking about me!"
3) "Wow...thats weird. I think I just saw your twin. Are you stalking me?"
==> Lifestyle updates- (Use to keep contact ever other day & demonstrate that youre a fun/interesting person )
4) "Dude...my cat just did the craziest thing..."
5) "I just saw an army of Oompa Loompas. I think short people are breeding too fast
6) "85 degrees out. Time to grab a towel and head to the beach. Too bad you have to work!!!"
==> Building Sexual Tension- (Use after youve spoken on the phone and set up a 2nd meeting)
7) "Miss me yet?"
8) "Tomorrow should be awesome. Just try not to embarrass me in front of my friends"
9) "Looking forward to seeing you. Youre like the bratty little sister Ive always wanted.
==> After the 2nd meeting- (Use to reinforce the good time she had)
10) "Had an AWESOME time. Hugs and kisses!"
11) "Fun times! I guess its safe to introduce you to
12) "Had a great time! Even if youre a little dorky..."
Sexual tension can be quickly gained and quickly LOST.
Thats why its important to keep up the attraction at ALL points in the relationships you have with women. In other words, NEVER allow the lines of communication to go slack.
Thats why I personally recommend that you use the text tips that I provided in this article and stay in contact with ALL the women youre dating (or hope to date).
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