The Simple Secret to Mastering Charm
What is charm?
Here are a few of the definitions that I found on the internet:
- appeal: attractiveness that interests or pleases or stimulates
- capture: attract; cause to be enamored
- spell: a verbal formula believed to have magical force
- something believed to bring good luck
- induce into action by using ones appeal
All of these definitions relate to my topic, which is how to make
people like you and draw them towards you like a magnet, in order to
persuade and influence them - either to date you, to hire you, to
buy from you, or to create a harmonious family life or working
A charming person gets along well with others and seems to have a
positive aura around them that draws people in like a magnet. People
who are charming have an edge when it comes to making friends,
getting the job they want, and attracting lovers. You dont have to
be charming, but if you are doors will swing open for you.
So how do you become charming? Its not about your educational
level, social class, intelligence, or looks. Its about your attitude and
how you relate to others. And yes, it can be learned.
The first thing you need to keep in mind is that charming people
make others feel good around them. Remember that and make it
Charm is about taking into account other peoples needs and desires
to find ways to get what both of you want and make everyone
happy, because the more you focus on other people the more
responsive they become to you and the easier it is to find common
ground with them. And youll probably be surprised when you start
doing this, how much it broadens your perspective on life and how
much you can learn from the people around you by taking the time to
step into their shoes.
Here is a simple exercise you can do to improve your relationships
The next time youre in conversation with someone, try to imagine
what it would be like to be them. Look at the whole situation from
their point of view. As you do that, try to imagine that youre in
their body, seeing what they see, hearing what they hear, thinking
their thoughts. How does this change your perception of the
You can learn valuable lessons from the past by doing the same thing
with a previous situation that didnt go exactly the way you wanted
it to. Imagine the whole thing from the other persons perspective.
Now imagine it from a third party perspective, as if you were an
objective bystander watching both of you. What would you say or
do differently now that you have this information?
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