Does He Love You Or Lust You? How to Tell the Difference and What to do About It
Have you started wondering, does he love you or lust you? Are you afraid it might be the latter? Do you want to go beyond lust and want him to fall in love with you? Do you think it can happen? First you need to answer the question, "Does he love you or lust you?" and then you will know what to do about it.
There are certain key signs that will tell you whether its lust or love thats keeping your relationship alive. He may be in love with you, but still always be thinking about sex, so thats not necessarily one of the signs. Its how he behaves before and after sex that you need to think about.
Does he call you up out of the blue after youve been apart for a few days and just has to see you now? When you agree, does he take you straight to the bedroom? If so, thats a pretty good sign that he is feeling lust and not love. If, after youve had sex, he says he has to go, thats a sure sign that its only lust hes feeling.
If he loves you, he will want to be with you even when he doesnt feel like having sex. Hell call you up just to talk. Hell send you frequent text messages. When he does see you, hell want to sit down and talk to you. After you have slept together, hell want to snuggle up and stay close to you.
When youre together, does he always talk about himself and never ask you about your feelings? When he pays you a compliment, is it always about how "hot" you look or how you turn him on? If youre wondering, "Does he love you or lust you," these are signs that the answer is lust.
If hes feeling love, he will be more interested in you than in himself. When he complimets you, it will be about a number of things. He will admire you intellectual capabilities, you sense of style and your sense of humor - all the things that make up the real you and not just the physical exterior.
If you cant answer these questions with a definite "lust" or "love," maybe hes still sitting on the fence. Guys dont fall in love first. They fall in lust. If you want to transform lust into love in his heart, start to divert his mind from sex. Go someplace public with him and have a good time together. Do things with him outdoors that both of you enjoy. That way, it gives him a chance to enjoy your company, not just your body.
What do you think now? Does he love you or lust you?
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This article is contributed by Tina Jones from the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.