How To Meet Women on Facebook
Dating girls is so easy today that your grandpa should be green with envy:
Today, you can find millions of beautiful girls online. You find them on dating websites or in online flirt communities. And here is what is even more exciting: You also find literally millions of single women on the social networks. Yes, I am talking literally about millions. In fact, there are over 100 million women on MySpace. And there are another 60 million women on facebook, with those numbers growing each and every day by the ten thousands.
Lets be honest: Thats plenty of fish! You could be the most social guy in your whole area -- and still, the number of hot women you might meet this way would totally fade in comparison.
And while flirting on dating sites is like going to a singles party in your town, social networking is more like meeting your dream girl through your circle of friends. And isnt that the most common way for people to find a girlfriend? Studies have shown that 56% of people in a relationship actually met their partners through common friends or on their job. If you ask women what they think is the best way to meet a partner, a whole 73% of them will say their social circle:
Girls expect their partner to show up through common friends, in social activities, on their job or at school.
In the online dating world, MySpace and Facebook are as close as you can get to that. And its true: You can even find a girlfriend on Facebook, and you can also find a girlfriend on MySpace.
But how do you approach beautiful women on Facebook? And how do you approach an attractive woman on MySpace?
The first thing most guys will think when they stumble upon a girls profile is: "Why would she even want to talk to me?". And, truth be told, beautiful girls usually do have a long, impressive list of friends, and most of them get ten or twenty e-mails from strangers every single day -- all of whom are trying to get to know her.
And thats not really surprising:
Talking to a girl online doesnt require the courage you might need to approach a woman on the street. Approaching online is safe, because you spare yourself from any embarassing situation if she rejects you. Nobody will see it. In fact, if shes not interested, she probably wont even reply at all.
And because it seems so easy, many guys will give it a shot. They figure theyve got nothing to lose. And in the end, 95% of the e-mails in a girls inbox will sound like "how are you doing?", "did you have a great weekend?" or "would you like to talk to me?".
Most pick up e-mails a girl receives are dead boring. And after a week on Facebook or MySpace, a beautiful woman will have learned to spot and delete them in an instant. For girls on Facebook, MySpace or datig sites its just like you and I can spot and delete spam messages from our mailboxes without even reading their content.
So you probably wonder what to say to a girl on MySpace, or what to say to a girl on Facebook.
How do you approach girls if you want to stand out?
How do you meet a girl online?
And, finally, how do you get a date?
You are not the only one with those questions. Ive been struggling with them three years ago, and today I have written a book about how to date girls on MySpace and Facebook. And I want to share with you what I have learned over the years so you dont have to make the same mistakes.
What I found is: Dating girls is like building any other connection between people. There are always three steps. You could call them dating secrets, but in fact, you will find them in any social interaction.
First, you need attention. Second, you need a connection. And, finally, you need commitment.
Its that easy.
Still, most guys will act on their first intuition. They will mix up the three steps right from the beginning when they flirt with a girl.
Just ask yourself: What is a guy really doing when he starts a conversation by asking an attractive girl how her weekend was? First, isnt that kind of a weird question, given the fact that he doesnt know her yet? And second, thats not exactly getting her attention, is it? If a guy approaches a hot girl by asking her how her weekend was, hes actually trying to build a connection. Hes trying to make her share her thoughtsfeelings and experiences with him right from the start. A strategy that is most likely to fail: Its simply impossible to build a connection to somebody unless youve got their attention in the first place.
Attention means to stand out from the crowd. It means that you need to make her recognize that you are different. It does not mean, however, that you have to show that you are better than the other guys. Just that something about you is different. Getting her attention means to make her curious. That is to say, curious enough to make her reply.
Connection, on the other hand, means to show her that you and her have something in common. For instance, you might have the same taste in music. You might both have similar hobbies. And you might share a common sense of humor: If you can laugh with her, she will have fun talking to you. And in the end, that will be the foundation for the third step:
Commitment. That is the final stage of every flirt. At this point, she will decide that you are somebody she wants to stick around. Only now you will get her phone number, meet her in real life or get a date.
Now that is the theory. But how do you apply it?
Many guys want to learn how to talk to girls. They simply lose all their spontaneity and fall into the trap of simply reacting to everything the girl does: They make their first mail a comment about something obvious from the girls profile. When she doesnt reply instantly, they interpret it as a rejection and get defensive. And when she does reply but challenges them by being naughty, they think she doesnt like them and draw back with their tail between their legs. In truth, the reality is: Whenever she replies, she is interested.
Next time you see a cutie on Facebook or on MySpace, send her the following message (without the quotes):
Subject: "I really must say..."
Body: "That is a CUTE picture! Who is she? I really like your taste."
Just try it. 8 out of 10 girls on Facebook, MySpace or on dating websites will reply. This message will get their attention.
This is a message that starts out like most of the everyday mails shes getting ("yourre so cute"), but right in the second sentence, the whole meaning is turned on its head. Basically, you are saying that the picture is hot, and therefore you simply assume that its probably not her. Some girls will laugh about that sudden twist, some wont, but in the end, most of them will feel challenged in some way and send you a reply.
Dont get me wrong:
Flirting is not about pick up lines. You could have the best pick up lines ever, and still never get a date and die as a virgin.
Its not enough to know how to approach a girl. You also need to know how to talk to a girl.
You can meet girls on Facebook and you can meet girls on MySpace, but you have to know how to flirt and make things escalate. You need to become a master of all three steps of flirting -- attention, connection and commitment.
Ordinary dating guides or flirting tips for men wont get you any further here. They are written by editors who are married themselves and work all day in an editors office, trying to meet the deadline for the next issue of their magazine or to somehow fill up their homepage with some quick content.
You can become good at flirting. This is not so much a matter of HOW MUCH you study and try, but rather of WHAT IT IS that you are studying and trying. You can put in hundreds of hours of discipline and optimism, but if youre practicing the wrong thing, youll never see the results you want, no matter how much you deserve them. On the other hand, if you find and do the right thing, you can become better than 80% of all the other guys out there fairly easily.
And if you want to see what I mean I invite you to read the sample chapter of my book on how to approach and date women on Facebook and MySpace.
The book will teach you everything you need: In it, you will learn how to make your profile attractive to girls.
You will learn all the ingredients of the perfect approach message.
You will learn what to talk about with a girl in order to bond with her.
In the book, youll also find games that you can play when youre writing e-mails with a girl -- games that will teach you things about her that she hasnt even shared with her best friends.
Most important, you will learn how to escalate and how to transition from talking online to getting her phone number, talking on the phone and meeting her for the first time in real life.
To see for yourself how easy it is to see instant results you can learn more about getting dates on Facebook and MySpace on my website "TheCharmingYou". All the information there is free -- and that includes the online dating tips that I send out each week via e-mail.
You will be amazed!
(And dont forget to try out the approach message youve just learned in this article.)
P.S.: I have received many many e-mails from people who have read my book and who have had tremendous success with it. Of course, I know that it always seems like a risk to buy something online when you dont know whether it will meet your expectations or not. And because of that, I have legally committed myself to sending back the full purchase price of the book to you if you send me an e-mail and tell me that the book didnt improve your dating life.
Ive been doing that since I first published the book, and so far only two out of every hundred readers have asked for a refund -- and have received it. On the other hand, many more have written me thank-you e-mails and recommended my book to their friends. That makes me really proud. And it makes me confident, that you will love the book and the results you will see after you read it.