Ways to Avoid Putting Your Partner on a Pedestal
In a perfect world, both parties in a relationship will have equal feelings for each other. Since we dont live in a perfect world, we need to think of having equal feelings towards your partner and your partner having equal feelings towards you as a goal and not what defines your relationship. Finding a balance between the intensity of feelings you have for one another is key to keeping your relationship thriving
I am not knocking relationships by any means. What I am saying is just the opposite. It is perfectly normal for someone in a relationship to have stronger feelings for the other person, and this is totally normal. The difference in the amount that you and your partner have feelings for each other is the dynamic that you need to pay attention to and be careful about. Let me give you an example. When one person is always at their partners beckon call, the relationship will struggle to work. I have been there before. That actually will work on a short term as you are feeling good that you are making the other person happy and they are happy because you are doing all these things for them. The problem arises when you are not receiving the love that you are giving the other person in return.
Most relationships are much less extreme, but I use this as an extreme example to show you what can happen as it has actually happened to me. What you want to do is work on how you display your feelings. It is pretty impossible to change the way you feel, but you can work on the way that you show those feelings. You will need to tone it down just a bit if you recognize that you are the one who has stronger feelings for your partner. Try waiting for your partner to show you the feelings that you show them before you do something more to show them how you feel. On the other side of the coin, if you are on the receiving end of someone who has stronger feelings for you then you have some work to do as well. Show your partner that youre feeling closely match the feelings your partner is giving you. Showing your feelings by doing things for your partner on the same scale that you are receiving them is a good way to show them that you have feelings on the same level as they do.
It can hurt a relationship by treating someone as they are perfect and do not make mistakes, so remember that no one is perfect and while you may think that treating someone as if they are is actually hurting the relationship. This is putting your partner on a pedestal and you must avoid doing this if you want the relationship to work. It is not easy for either side. Being the one feeling like you are giving more than your partner is tough because you probably feel like your feelings are not being returned as fully as you feel you should. It is tough to have your partner build you up when you have to handle the pressure that comes with being put on a pedestal when you are the one being pictured in that light.
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